How being an EMPATH can be a SUPERPOWER (for people who are hyper aware and hyper sensitive)

Yes, I am aware that literally everyone thinks they are an empath. But let me tell you what an empath is before you self diagnose.

Someone who is an empath, can sense the slightest of slightest shifts in someone. They can sense something is going on with someone before that person acknowledges it in themselves.

Everything can look okay but you can tell a difference in the eyes or the slightest change in someone’s laugh.

Being an empath is very exhausting because you naturally feel responsible for someone’s change in emotion and feel the need to find out and change it to be happy.

It is extremely exhausting and most of the time, you think it is your fault, even if you haven’t had a bad interaction with that person or even talked to them in a long time.

There’s always something in the back of your mind that thinks that it has something to do with you.

This typically arises from children experiencing a very emotionally unstable adult and the child felt responsible for every reaction and could not predict it. Therefore, you grow up trying to predict and sense everyone’s emotions to prevent it from happening.

Yes, traumatizing, but doesn’t always need to be a falter in your step.

So how can being an empath be a benefit if it is so stressful and exhausting at times?

1. First, remember that it’s not always about you

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…and most likely is not about you unless you actually did something that might hurt them.

And even in that case, you are able to see it and be able to confront them to hash it out with them and it doesn’t hit you over the head when you least expect it.

2. You are able to care for your friends in a deeper way

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If you are an empath, you can sense when your friends are a little off. And ask them what’s wrong or even figure out what is wrong through just a normal conversation.

All it takes is someone to be there and listen to them and validate their experiences. Everyone is usually going through something and need a listening ear.

3. You can spot when they need help

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When your friend needs help, you know when and why because you can sense it through how they are expressing certain topics. That gives you a way to initiate a way to help them and show them love and care.

You can also spot when someone needs intervention quicker than others. Regardless of the kind of intervention it is. You are able to see it before it gets bad.

Summary

Yeah it is exhausting but with great power comes great responsibility.

Yes, you didn’t ask for this hyper sensitivity, but if you wanted to do some good in the world, use your senses to change the world, help someone out. Be there for someone.

It’s basically a super power. Use it well.

Love you guys 😊❤️

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“Stop with the What If’s”

First of all, I would like to mention that this blog has felt less like a hustle lately, and more like my personal journal haha. Which I think is great. Time changes perspective, which changes attitude, then changes actions.

The beauty hacks or the amazon links are literally me just saving the clothing that I like to purchase later or just sharing it because I love it so much, and my mental health posts are literally just me sharing my thoughts online.

And the fact that I am just sharing them with 24 people is quite awesome. The fact that 24 people find my blogs useful and insightful, makes me really happy. The blogging community is one of the most kindest and supportive communities that I have ever interacted with.

I don’t get many comments on mine, but when I comment on other blogs, people are so nice, and it truly makes me happy to be on this platform.

Anyways, lets get started:

I was watching with The Game (On Netflix). And Derwin was devastated because he had a leg injury and was scared that he would never get back up again and play football. Then his baby momma says “Stop with the what ifs!” What if gas prices keep going up, what if her baby comes out an alien. Which is true. What if it does. Then what?

We spend so much of our lives stressing out about what if’s. What if this happens and what if that happens. What if it does happen? Then what? What if it doesn’t happen?

What if my blog never goes anywhere and I just wasted my time when I could have been making money in a different way?

What if I never get married?

What if everyone hates me?

What if I don’t succeed?

Well. What if you never get married. Then what are you going to do? What if everyone hates you?

What is your next plan then? What are you going to do about it? These are the questions you should be asking yourself. But you miss one hundred percent of the shots you don’t take.

Did you know the Kentucky Fried Chicken CEO, Colonel Harland Sanders began KFC when he was 65? What if it didn’t work out? Then it didn’t work out. People go through so many business ventures until they find the one that works for them.

I lived my entire life wondering what if

My life lived on a timeline, and I lived the way I was supposed to in a comfortable but boring life because I constantly thought about the what if’s. I constantly thought about the failures.

So what. What if you fail? What if you don’t?

Because honestly, there is no such thing as uncontrolled failure. You only fail when you want to fail. You only fail when you stop trying and stop learning. You will succeed if you keep getting back up. No questions.

Now, are you hoping for a certain timeline? That is a different story. Sometimes you got to reassess and readjust. Learn new things on the way and reassess and readjust. But for the time being, do your best with the knowledge that you have.

Conclusion

Stop with the What If’s. You can ask “what if” for anything, but the only thing that does is make you hesitate.

If failure happens, reassess and try something else. You are allowed to make mistakes. Its okay if you don’t get it perfect the first time. Which nobody does. If everyone could do it, everyone would. That has nothing to do with skill or talent, all you honestly need is belief in yourself, and you can learn those skills and talents.

I can’t stress enough how belief in yourself can be so strong and powerful.

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My perception of life when the storms around me get too much

I feel like I am not giving very much quality content lately, but at the same time, I feel like these topics are important to talk about.

Having a therapist is expensive for some of us, or we can’t afford to take the time at the moment, so listening to other people’s experiences can help.

When the relationships around you, or your dreams start to crumble before your eyes, it may seem like you have nothing left. It seems like everything you have built is gone. Everything that made you comfortable and safe is gone.

I think thats the difficult part of it all. We attach ourselves so much to the world around us. Our friends, or family, our jobs, but life truly isn’t just that. And the moment an external variable happens and the state of our well being and mind starts to panic.

Change in mindset

Take a second to think about the movies you have watched. Every movie has some kind of life shifting conflict. These are not easy for someone to adjust to. But it happens, and another outcomes happens, and typically they end up living a different kind of life that they adjusted to. They end up still living their life and still learning how to be happy in ways that they didn’t think to be.

Think of your life as a movie

It is not really romanticizing your life, but you are the main character of your own life. And your life is just as much of a storyline as a movie is.

Ask anyone who is older. Nobody had the same friends growing up, some did and some didn’t, people constantly switch their jobs, people lose touch with their families, and so many other changes happen in life.

You can’t stop external factors. You might try out of desperation to preserve what you want to preserve, but at the end of the day, you have no control over anything than yourself.

Your life is a story line. A movie of your own lifespan. You are just walking through that timeline and experiencing what happens at minute 50 or 1 hour and 30 minutes.

Which brings me to my next point

Focus on Time

When you are enduring changes and tribulations in your life, focus on time. Time heals everything, things will subside when time passes by. And regardless of what is happening in your life, time will always tick.

If you are enduring someone fighting with you, just remember this is only a moment in time. It is not your entire life. Doesn’t mean things will stay the same after they yell at you, but do what you can, and wait for time to unravel what is meant to be.

Things will unravel in the way they should. People gravitate towards people like them, people grow and change when they are ready. Life will go on for everyone and responsibilities will take over. People’s emotions subside with time.

Change your perspective

When difficult moments start to arise in your life, think of it as a transition to a life altering moment. You may not know what may change in your life but something with change, and as a difficult moment arises, recognize that this is a point of your life that something is ready to be different and transition to something new.

For example: If your significant other is breaking up with you, change is happening, yeah. This person is making a choice to break up with you because they no longer want to be with you. But that’s the thing, that’s life. Everything changes, there are seasons to life, and different moments of life that makes your character development more dynamic.

Another example is if you get fired. Yeah you may have made a lot of money from that job, but it could potentially lead you to a new job you may feel mentally stable at or a change in perspective of yourself. This could be a moment of growth.

My last example is family separation. This is tough for people because you believe that family should be everything to you. Your mom was supposed to act like a mother. Your mom was supposed to teach you how to love yourself. Your dad was supposed to stick around. Your sister was supposed to be supportive and not jealous. And you get in an argument and decide to separate yourself.

It is hard, yes. It is painful, yes. But it is a moment in time. It is a transition. Whether it is learning to stick up for your boundaries, or change your perspective of life, or learn something about yourself. It is a moment of change.

Learning Lesson

This may sound stupid to some people, but always find the lesson in each moment. Whether you believe in a higher being or not, there is always something to learn about yourself and learn about others. The wisest people are self-aware and the smartest people know they don’t know everything.

Conclusion

Blogging really helps me talk myself into understanding my moods. It is almost like journaling, and I truly believe it helps other people as well. I have started to open myself up to dropping anything or anyone who doesn’t serve me (people who don’t help me grow as a person, or jobs that don’t fulfill my soul). I have let go of controlling the storms around me because I don’t have control. I need to do what I am able to do, and if it doesn’t work out, at the end of the day, it is my story. And it is just a story that I am living. I am not going to determine how my story goes because of a side character in my life or a setting. That is pretty limiting.

I also don’t want to determine my story by limiting myself. Whether it is what path I want to go, and how I want to walk on that path. Learn how to be okay with not knowing what is going to happen.

Honestly, a little part of me thinks that is my own problem and people don’t have the incessant need to analyze themselves, understand, and predict what may happen in the future. But if you have that, I would love if you followed my blog. I got a lot more coming than just this.

For those few people who read and like my posts, I appreciate you so much, I love the community even if its a few. And it makes my blogs feel so purposeful.

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You Don’t Owe Anyone Anything

For the longest time, I have been around people who believed they were entitled to anything that wanted out of me.

Or maybe they weren’t entitled but they sure acted like it.

They acted like I had to give up my personal secrets because the status of our friendship or relationship, or I had to give up my body because I have given it before.

And the worst thing that I did, was believe them. Believed that because they decided to share a secret with me, it would be wrong for me to not share back. Or give up my body because I have already given it up, but if I didn’t want to, I had to promise to never to give myself to anyone else. Even though we were going our separate ways. Honestly, I should’ve lied. It would’ve gotten me out of the situation faster.

Or doing something for someone because the favors they have done for me were always transactional. I never agreed to it, but I am apparently forever indebted because their favors cost that much.

Was I a pushover? Or were these people especially entitled narcissists.

I want to say that it was both. I was a pushover. I never wanted to stand up for myself because I always chose to understand others, but I didn’t understand what boundaries meant. Also, they were mentally ill. I’m not gonna sugar coat it.

I am still a little angry about it honestly. I don’t know how I didn’t see the red flags. I don’t know why I never felt like I was allowed to draw a line and stand up for myself. But, I guess I learned very late.

So if you are struggling with people feeling entitled to you, here are some things to remember:

  1. No Matter what has happened, nobody is entitled to anything from you.
  2. At the end of the day, you are the only one who can keep standing up for you.
  3. You have every right to keep your boundaries, and you don’t need to prove it to anyone. Just being born as a human, you have those rights.
  4. Love yourself, take care of yourself how you would take care of someone you love and care about.
  5. Remember, you don’t owe anyone ANYTHING, and nobody is entitled to ANYTHING from you.

I do regret being a pushover and falling into the wrong crowd. All I truly wanted was to be valued as a human. And for some reason it was really hard to find that. And I don’t know why it took 27 years to realize that I have value and I didn’t have to beg for it, or I didn’t have to listen to what anyone and everyone told me to do.

So, if you are someone who struggles with this. Start now. You 100% have every right to keep whatever you want to yourself, give whatever you want of yourself to others. You don’t need to prove that to anyone. You don’t need to convince anyone. Anyone who makes you give a part of you that you don’t want to, does not respect you, and only cares about themselves.

Value yourself. Period. If you feel like you need a history to decide whether you are able to value yourself, forget it. Start over. You should’ve valued yourself from the start. So if not then, start now.

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How We Should Perceive Our Negative Emotions

Listen, everyone goes through something. I rarely meet anyone that has lived a happy life their entire life. We all experience emotions and it effects our life in so many ways.

That being said, usually when you experience some kind of situation that makes you sad, angry, depression, irritated, or anything we tend to make a definitive statement and already create a reality out of it.

From just the feeling we get.

We literally, create a new reality of what we think is actually happening, based on a emotional reaction.

Now I am not saying emotions are bad and should be avoided. In fact, embracing, feeling, and loving my emotions (especially crying) has honestly made me the most emotionally strongest I have ever been.

I have been told that I am too sensitive and too emotional my entire life, and I have tried to suppress all of my emotions, which made me even more unstable.

The moment I have embraced my emotions, is the moment that I had become stronger. The moment I started to love feeling my feelings and crying over everything I wanted to cry about, is the moment people around me have even realized that I have become and am emotionally strong.

Which is the craziest thing, because you wouldn’t think that those that are “emotionally strong” are the ones that cry all the time. But, believe it or not, I got so tired of trying to be “strong”. But once I stopped avoiding my emotional reactions, I truly was able to handle any emotional reaction because feelings weren’t scary anymore. They were just, feelings that I had that I validated. They were not reality, they were just reactions.

So before I continue, try it. Regardless of what anyone’s preconceived ideas area bout emotions, just cry when you want to cry and just acknowledge when you are scared or sad. And if you’re sad, be sad. Tell yourself, “well, I am sad right now because this situation makes me sad.” Period. That’s it. Keep doing it.

I kid you not. When I would try to be emotionally strong and keep it together, I was told I was too sensitive. And the moment I embraced all my reactions and emotions, I have been told that I am emotionally strong. And I would recommend to everyone, to stop shoving their emotions down.

Emotions are just that.

They are emotions and only emotions. They are reactions.

Just because you have an initial emotional reaction, does not mean that whatever you fear is happening, is reality. Whatever you fear people are thinking about you, is not reality. It is just your fear, it is just your reaction. Your initial reaction.

Your emotions are not anything but your reactions, and your reactions come from your past experiences, insecurities, and fears. So when you are experiencing a situation that brings up negative feelings, your emotional reaction consists of all of these.

Whether it is true or not, the emotional reaction is still a reaction, and only a reaction. People can perceive the same situation in different ways because they experienced life in different ways. They have different fears and insecurities.

When you have an emotional reaction, it is important to experience it and feel it and address it. Tell yourself you are feeling this way for a reason. Verbalize what you are feeling and tell yourself why you may be feeling this way. Out loud. This will help you experience and acknowledge your emotions.

Then let yourself know that it is okay that you are feeling this way.

After you feel your emotions and address it, now you have more mental and emotional space to think about the issue. And acknowledge that you don’t know exactly what is happening in everyone’s head, and this may not be resolved quickly, but do what you can, do your part, and know that that is all you can do. Then keep living your daily life and doing what you need to do.

I have found letting yourself feel what you are experiencing, can help you understand yourself. Understand your past experiences, understand your boundaries, and understand your personality. Then it helps you make further decisions about your life.

Separating those emotions from your thoughts can help you make clear sound decisions rather than rash decisions, causing more issues. Acknowledging your emotions can help you understand that your emotions are just reactions that you are having to the situation.

Start feeling your emotions, and let go. Because you will become a lot stronger if you stop fearing your feelings.

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How I got my confidence and self esteem

I have had low self esteem for half of my life.

I had good self esteem up until middle school when people did not like my self esteem and confidence in myself.

I was in an environment that really cared about image and status, so it was very toxic but it was all that I knew.

That being said, I truly thought I was being too confident about myself. I truly believed that I had to humble myself. People had comments about my hobbies and passions. People had comments about my body when I was not even in the mindset to think about my body.

People had comments about my status with boys. I didn’t even care about boys yet.

I never compared myself to anyone. I never had the competition mindset. I did me, and I let them be them. Which I think bothered people because their opinions didn’t bother me. I just considered them as other people’s opinions.

So eventually, my self esteem plummeted because I just wanted friends to like me. Unfortunately, I was looking in the wrong place. That community was not where I should have been looking.

So, how did I get my confidence back after it being knocked down by my friends and family?

I realized my own worth.

Through YouTube, and Tiktok, and Instagram quotes. That is where I found my worth. I learned that I wasn’t supposed to fight for respect or worth. I was already supposed to have it. Which threw me off because my entire life I have been trying to prove to people that I am worth it.

The moment I realized that I was already worth it, I started acting like it. Just naturally. Naturally, I did not have to prove to anyone or show anyone that I was worth it. I didn’t feel the need to make everyone believe that they should believe I was worth it.

I just believed it, and it showed through. Instead of trying to prove to people that I was someone that was worth it, I wanted to make sure that everyone else believed that they are worth it. Because you realize that more people than you know have low self esteem.

If you have no self confidence or self esteem and have questioned your worth.

You already have it. You never had to prove it.

Don’t try to prove it. People who are worth your time will already see it.

A day in the life of a freelancer aspiring their dreams

Today, was not a good day.

It is 7:41 pm, and I have scheduled 2 blogs to write for my blog, and I have to manage a social media account. I have not started because I quite frankly don’t feel like it.

Sometimes I don’t feel like it because I question if it is even worth it. I neglect to see my work, and I am home all day, which may make me tired. I am not even sure.

I am not sure how I was able to get so much done in an 8 hour day. Then when I started working from home. How in the hell is it harder to stay awake? I just want to take a nap. Some days I just have no motivation, and some days, I should have went to the library.

When you are hustling for your dreams, you are not always going to be in the hustle mode, where you work all night, for your dreams to come true. You are going to grudgingly keep working even when you are too tired, because you don’t want to miss one day.

Especially, because I refuse to go back to doing nothing because I can’t get a job, or hating my life, because I hate the job that I am doing.

I make very little money, but I am very happy with my daily life right now.

I know I have written about this before, but today is one of those days that I just feel blocked. I don’t know what to write about, I don’t feel inspired. I don’t feel like my work is showing any results. I am discouraged.

But I love doing this too much to just stop now.

I bought a ring light. It’s coming tomorrow. I am pretty excited to start taking pictures of the products I use, or the outfits that I match. I am thinking about posting videos on this blog too. We will see how it goes though.

I don’t know. This blog was pretty pointless honestly. It is just me venting out my feelings and frustrations. These are the days where people tend to just quit, but I guess I have done so many hustles to know that today is just a feeling. But I will regret the lack of consistency if I listen to those feelings.

The cover photo is an actual picture of me. Not glamorous. I haven’t done my makeup in days. My hair is frizzy, and I am tired. Not tired enough for a nap, but too tired to be motivated for anything.

I don’t know what this blog is. It is just a bunch of mind dump. Thanks for reading.

Get to Know Me

I have been posting on this platform for maybe a month now, and realized that my followers don’t really even know me.

First of all, I would like to thank all my followers for following me, finding my content valuable in one way or another. I would love for you to leave comments so I can find out what you need and I can write more for what my followers need!

My name is Liz, and I have done the whole college thing, 9 to 5 job, and I have done a million side hustles. I also have an Etsy shop of digital ADHD planners (NotedbyLiz).

I have hated the 9 to 5 job. I don’t ever want to work and stress out for someone else, and I would rather work longer days and stress out for myself.

That being said, holy moly. I am living my dream, not making money off of it, but hustling for it. At the end of the day I am really happy with the work that I produce, and I am lucky to have a supportive husband that made it possible for me to have the luxury of not making money for the time being.

As you can see, I love talking about mental health, and I am so passionate about it, and I know many other people are too.

To me, I have just really went through the thick of it alone, and I really wish I had someone to guide me. Everything that I thought was impossible and not for me, truly became possible.

I have pushed through and conquered through depression, social anxiety, anxiety, my purpose in life, loneliness, opinions of others. If I knew someone who went through it alone and got out on the other side, I would have had more hope, and that is what I wanted to be for other people. I am happier than ever.

I love fashion and beauty. I hated that every 9 to 5 job would stifle my creativity in my outfits. Why do I have to be boring to be professional? The work is still being done, my body is still covered and presentable. It’s just a little more fun!

So that is why I created this blog!

I truly find kindness and unconditional love so important in life, and being the best, kindest, most loving person, regardless of the world around you, because it is pretty dark.

So if you follow along, I thank you so much, I hope to bring life, love, and good advice.

Sincerely,

Liz

What to do if you are discouraged about your dreams

This year in 2022, I made it my mission to follow my dreams.

That means, I will work on things that bring me joy, and pursue and create, even if there is a possibility that it I may be wasting my time.

I have been consistently blogging for three weeks now, and honestly, I am already doubting myself. I feel like, no matter how much I would love to make blogging a full time job, the blogging world is too saturated.

Sometimes, I think I should just go for real estate so I don’t waste my time.

I just wanted to be able to make a living by doing things that bring me joy. I quit my entire life and everything I worked towards, I am almost thirty, and I’m out here trying to work towards dreams that are not guaranteed.

Am I wasting my time? Is it not worth it?

I’m not sure and I don’t have the answer to that. But as I am writing this, I realize that three weeks is not enough to start getting discouraged. I know that for sure. People spend years and years working hard for what they love.

It is easy to get discouraged when things are not guaranteed. But I am not willing to go to a nine to five and work doing things I truly hate, or things that don’t fulfill me.

I really am not willing to go back. I don’t want to go to plan b. I need plan A to work. I love writing blogs everyday, I love to talk about fashion and beauty. It gets me so excited.

If you are feeling discouraged because of your dreams, just keep going. At least go all in for one year and see where it goes. Give it your 100% for one year. If you gain no traction, maybe re-evaluate.

If you do, maybe you have potential to grow and be everything you want to be.

Some things you can do to track your growth are:

1. Write down your milestones

2. Write down each attainable goal.

3. Write down your achievements

With each moment you achieve, if you write them down, you are able to see your progress. If you don’t, you forget everything you have achieved and where you came from.

Be patient. Remember all your previous successes did not flourish overnight or within one day, why would this one? Give yourself time. Sometimes all you need is time.

Be consistent. Try not to miss a day. Whatever you are working towards, don’t miss a day of practice, or auditions, or working. Treat it like it is already a full time job. Regardless of what income it may bring.

Understand the industry. Is it normal to not get responses quickly? Take the time to get to know the experiences of successful people and how they got to the top.

Don’t settle. Life is so much more when you stop settling for what comes easier, and start going for what fulfills you and gives you drive.

At the end of the day. You truly have one life to live, and you need to be okay with how you choose to live it.

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Why Manifestation LOGICALLY works

I used to be the safest person you can get to. Will not move forward with anything if the there was too big of a risk. But I truly hated my life and everything that I did. It was boring, it was too safe, and overall it was not rewarding.

I have one life to live, and I am living it in order to die with money saved. Nothing about my life had life in it.

That being said, when I learned the world manifestation, I truly believed that people were just needing a reason to believe in something. To me, nothing about it was real. You can’t just ask the world for something and it’s just going to give you want you want. That is not how life works.

None of it made sense to me until I decided to really think about why some people claim their manifestation works. Because you see the results, but it made no sense to just ask the life spirits for what you want. So how did they get there?

Because they acted like they were going to get it.

I am a firm believer in the mind being powerful. Your mind in a powerful space because whatever you think and believe will change the way you act.

For example, if you believe that you will reach your goal body this summer. The reason why you will, is because you start acting like it. You go to the gym regularly and consistently because it isn’t a choice, it will happen simply so.

Your entire attitude changes as well as your perspective when you choose to believe a different way, and your behavior changes naturally according to it.

This is why manifestation works

When you truly believe that you are going to get your dream life, you will work as if you already have your dream life. Your work ethic is 100% all in, because you are expecting it to be all in.

If you go into your dreams doubting yourself 10%, you will slow down ten percent. You will make compromises if the work and effort you are putting into it is truly worth it. You don’t get the results of you would if you put 100%.

You manifesting something, is you believing that it will come true. It is sending your energy and giving positive energy into the world and people will notice and see that, and are drawn to you because they thrive off of it.

Manifest your dream. If you don’t get it, then you only learned persistence and hard work. But you only truly lose the moment you stop trying to get up.