How I Furnished My Dream Apartment for $510

As an Asian American woman that had parents come from Korea and started their lives from the ground up as adults, we did not value interior design. We would collect furniture off the street, or get the cheapest things purely for function. As long as we had something to put our clothing in, and a place to sleep and study, it really did not matter what it looked like. That being said, I have grown up believing that decorations were a waste of money, and as long as your furniture works, that is all you need.

Because of that, I have never put value in putting time and effort into your environment.

To give a preface about me, I tend to need obsessions time to time, and my obsessions change. I tried to change this about me, but I have learned that this is just the way I am. So I have decided to manage my obsessions in a way that is not damaging financially, wasteful to the environment, or damaging to myself in any way. Hence, furniture shopping seemed to be the safest obsession. Sounds expensive, right? That is where our creativity comes in.

Decorating your apartment to fit how your mind functions, really helps your environment at home (so get to know yourself). I love color. I used to love the beige and white aesthetic, but it was too dull for me. I needed mental stimulation. Some people love the clean beige, white aesthetic, and that gives them their satisfaction. Let me emphasize that everyone is different. For me, the colors give me happiness and safety for some reason. When I switched up my environment, it went from being a storage place where I just sleep and do things, into a safe place that gives me peace and joy.

I am telling you, there is power in interior decorating.

Furnishing your apartment the way that you like will always be a long term game. Whether you are buying everything new, or getting it already used. Every single piece that you buy is going to be a hunt. Which comes to my first point: to furnish your dream apartment, you will need patience.

1. Patience

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No matter what, you need to be patient with all your finds. Do not settle. You may feel like you want the perfect aesthetic place asap, but if you want to save money, this has to be a long term game. It is a search. You paying full price, is you paying for time. So pick your battles.

2. Places to Shop

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Stop going to furniture stores and seeing their sales. If you want the nice things for a discounted price, you need to go to thrift stores, facebook marketplace, Mercari, and yard sales.

Thrift Stores: There are stores that sell furniture at discounted prices. These wont be as modern and new, but you can paint over it with a 6 dollar paint can from home depot.

Facebook Marketplace: You need to go on Facebook Marketplace as if it is a social media platform. There are rich people who have clean and new stuff that just want to get their stuff out of their house ASAP. Those go out fast. You need to make a list of what you need, and watch it religiously. You can find some really decent things for cheap prices, but you need to move fast.

Mercari: Very similar to Facebook Marketplace

Yard Sales: These can be really great or really bad, so you gotta just find your charming treasure pieces from yard sales. It doesn’t hurt to check it out!

3. DIY Projects

If you have a couch that is sold cheap because of a stain, go for it and invest in the furniture stain cleaner.

I have this one. It is definitely a little expensive, but in the long run, is way cheaper than buying a brand new piece of furniture. But make sure the furniture you are getting isn’t so bad that its going to waste a lot of your time cleaning it.

Paint your furniture! You don’t like the color? Get some wall paint and gloss, or get some acrylic paint to spice up your furniture. Many wooden pieces are free, and you can just paint over it and save so much money instead of paying over a hundred dollars for a furniture piece.

4. Cheap Decor

You guys are underestimating Five Below. The amount of solid decor from Five Below that is new, is surprising. I paid $20 dollars for each of my couch pillows (paid a total of $120), and then I found perfectly good pillows from five below (cute and aesthetic) and could have gotten a ten dollar bag of cotton and just shoved some more cotton in it to reach my pillow standards!

My Experience

With all of these tips, I got a

  1. L-Couch for $80
  2. Brand New Ottoman for $30
  3. Modern Blue Dining Chairs for $125
  4. Brand New King Size Mattress for FREE
  5. Wooden Dining Table (That I repainted) for FREE (Paint and supplies is +$15)
  6. Bought a NEW Bed Frame for $100
  7. Dresser for $20
  8. Big Floor Length Mirror for $20 (Acrylic Paint for $1)
  9. NEW Couch Pillows for $120

Which comes to a total of $510. Which is less than the price of the couch in it of itself. It just takes patience and work, but your wallet will thank you in the future, and your mental health will also thank you in the future.

Let me know how your furniture scavenger hunt goes!

5 Drinks that I Need to Drink Every Single Day – From Someone with Stomach Issues

Liquid tends to fill me up, so this is very difficult for me to do, or I would probably never eat at that point. I don’t eat that much because I have a very weak stomach and I am scared of eating half of the time or very burdened half of the time to eat. My mom was scared that I would end up in the hospital growing up.

Honestly though, as an adult looking back, I would be worried too. All I did was eat school lunch, drink orange juice, and sleep all day after school. But nevertheless. These are the four drinks that I am trying to drink every single day.

1. Water

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I can’t explain this enough. You need water to hydrate yourself, keep that skin supple, your body is made up a lot of water. Just get your emotional support water bottle and keep sipping that water throughout the day.

If you don’t have an emotional support water bottle, then get one. Get a super cute water bottle that you are obsessed with so that you carry it everywhere.

2. Coffee

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I don’t think I need to explain this either. I don’t know, something about being an adult makes it really difficult to have energy unless I drink coffee. Is my body addicted to it? I don’t know. Do I even need it some days? Not really. But do I drink it anyways to jump start my brain so I can start working? Yes. Yes I do.

3. Smoothies

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I have a huge issue with smoothies. I can’t eat them without bananas and I always procrastinate when it comes to making smoothies and then bananas go bad and I always waste them and give them to my friend and she just makes banana bread out of it.

I admit, I was not paying attention when she was trying to teach me. I should freeze the bananas. But as you can tell from the intro, I am wildly unhealthy and undernourished. I need to blend all those nutrients in a blender and chug them down for my own well being.

4. Protein Shakes

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Honestly, thinking about it now, I could probably put the smoothie and protein shake into one drink, but it just tastes weird when you mix protein powder with a smoothie. But people do a really good job in putting protein powder in. I also don’t like meat. Something about it makes my body really tired and it digests so slow, that I just don’t like eating it.

I could practically go vegan at this point, but I love cheese, and I don’t mind meat once in a while.

I have been working out lately, if you have been seeing my posts, and so I want to incorporate protein shakes in my diet. So protein shakes are truly a great addition to that!

5. Fun Drinks

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Because my stomach is a little weakling. Snacking can be fun or I could end up throwing up. I have an allergy test that I need to take, but I like to drink juice as a snack. It is light on my stomach, and fills it enough as if I am snacking.

Summary

I am not a dietitian. Actually, maybe I could have asked my sister because she is an actual certified registered dietitian, and she is the one who sent me the allergy test. I am not an expert, but this is what I do, and I have been okay with it. And then I eat dinner. I make sure it has fiber. I don’t know if that is healthy. Don’t listen to me. This is just a personal opinion and a routine for the limitations that I have.

But whatever you do, make sure you have fiber, understand what foods don’t sit well in your stomach and try to figure out why. Make sure you have all your nutrients to keep yourself alive. Treat yourself like you treat your own beloved pet. Take yourself on walks and feed yourself nutritious food.

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5 Things to keep in mind when restarting your life- for people in their mid to late 20’s

If you are in your mid to late twenties, there is a good chance that you grew up, being told that college was the way to go, forced to pick a degree that made stable sense.

We did everything we were supposed to do, and now we are in our mid to late twenties, realizing we don’t like the trajectory that our life is going.

But now you are here, forced to self reflect during the pandemic and realizing that the life you are living may not be the one you want, but you are way too far into it to change your mind.

Not everyone in their twenties are like this, some of us know exactly what we wanted to do and are on the path that we have always wanted to be.

But if you are not in that category, and you struggle to be stable and know how you want to spend your days, keep these in mind:

  1. You are not old.
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Often times we are pressured to believe that the moment we hit 25, we are considered old. We should have had our entire life together by now.

But think about how crazy that is. Why should we have it all together by 25? That is literally one quarter or even one third of our lives (because the life span is getting shorter for most people).

What are you going to do for the rest of your life? Chill and be content with your life’s work as you were growing up and learning how to be human? You have so much life ahead of you to pursue whatever you want.

Mindset is everything.

I met this 92 year old woman at Walmart one day. She was the supervisor of two departments, and she was up and active as if she was 60 years old. We asked her, what is the secret of happiness and life?

And she just told us to keep going, keep busy, keep doing things. She has been living without her husband for 20 years.

Just because you hit 60 years old does not mean you suddenly become immobile and unable to think or do anything. It truly depends on what you want out of yourself and your determination.

At 25, you just started your independency. You just began to learn about who you are as a person in this world. How you contribute to the world, what the world is really even about. Why should you have it altogether by then?

You have so much more time than you think.

2. Be creative.

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When it comes to going for your dreams, we have a tendency to feel as though stability is our enemy.

You don’t have to go for your dreams full time. You can work part time for your dreams until they can afford to be full-time. Save some money, pay the bills.

If the industry you are looking at is too saturated and you are not willing to take that risk, in what other ways does your talents make money?

Are bills too high? Think of people, think of ways to save money. Get a roommate, live in someone’s basement. Maybe a friend is struggling on rent. Live in their basement to help both of you save money for the time being.

3. Spend your life the way you want to.

Whether it is sitting in a silent office for 8 hours a day, or playing with dogs all day, or work on the computer wherever you go, spend your life the way you want to.

You have one life, and it does not have to go the way societal norms deems as successful. It can just be to fulfill your life the way you were meant to be fulfilled.

4. Make sure you are fulfilled.

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Everyone feels fulfilled in a different way because everyone was born with different talents and gifts. That means, no matter what anyone else tells you is good for you, they only know what would be good for them. You know what fulfills you and gives you life.

Ask yourself, what makes YOU tick? How can you integrate that in your everyday life?

5. You have one life.

You really have this one life. Do you want to waste it in doing what everyone expects of you and live chained to what other people want for your life? Or do you want to discover what fulfills you and your time?

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How to love yourself

Like I’m gonna give you a step by step tutorial on how to actually like yourself.

I can’t do that. I can give you some tips, but I won’t be able to give you the exact formula to love yourself.

Theres a multitude of reasons as to why you don’t love yourself:

You may hate your personality because people have shushed you too much.

You may hate your body because it is not the beauty standard.

You may a quirk that you have because people keep making fun of you about it.

You may hate yourself because of the lack of respect people gave you, and you believe that you don’t deserve love or respect.

Did I just remind you a bunch of reasons why you hate yourself? Sorry, I didn’t mean to. But do you see what all of these have in common? They all have to do with other people’s perspective.

So just stop caring about other people’s opinions!”

Has someone really said this to you? Pretty ridiculous right? Wow thanks! Let me just re-wire how I have perceived my whole world for so many years of my life cause you just said that. Thanks for the advice!

A lot of us, when we try to “stop caring about other people’s opinions” we start shoving it off by hardening our heart and rejecting it that way. But then, in the process, we start to throw our hatred, disgust, and ugly feelings at everyone else. Giving people an attitude for saying what they are saying, talking smack about the people who talk smack about you. And you become just as ugly as them.

So how do you truly get to a place where you love yourself?

You have to know yourself. You can not truly and fully love something that you do not truly know. You have to know everything about yourself, and accept it. You can’t be like, “that’s a quirk I think is embarrassing and other people think is embarrassing and I don’t want that.” If it is a tendency that you do, then you need to accept it.

This is not necessarily saying that you should stay the way you are forever. That means that we all grow and all change, but it is a journey and it takes time. Love every version of yourself you become in your journey of growth. Every time you change, appreciate and accept each step you are in. If you do, nobody can shove in your face something you already accepted about yourself. Everyone changes, and life is a process. On the way, you will have different quirks about you. In the meanwhile, understand that you may talk more than others, or have interesting ankles, or have different interests than others. That is a personal trait that is exclusive to you.

Maybe you really don’t like it. Then change it. You have every right and control over yourself to change something you don’t like about yourself. But make sure you are changing something about you for a positive reason.

For example:

If you talk “too much”. Don’t change this trait because people say you are annoying and you talk too much. Change this because you want to remind yourself that you want other people to express themselves so you can get to know them better. Or that you want to have meaningful conversation and this will work if listen more. This way, your change is a beautiful type of growth, rather than stunting yourself and trying to stop something about yourself.

If you don’t fit the beauty standard and someone is telling you to exercise so people would think you are attractive, don’t lose weight because you want people to think you are beautiful. If you truly want to change your body, don’t change it because someone told you to. Don’t do it to prove them wrong. Don’t base your changes of yourself around someone else’s thoughts. Maybe you noticed something about yourself you wanted to change through someone else’s comment, but don’t do it if it has to do with them at all. Do it for yourself. Do it to feel stronger, do it to stay mentally healthy, do it to have routine, do it to impress yourself in how consistent you can be. Show yourself, what you are capable of. Because if you are caring about other people’s opinions, you sure as hell are neglecting your own and you haven’t shown yourself how far you can go.

Your change becomes less about them, and more about what you want to show yourself.

Welcome the challenging times that come your way.

I used to tell my therapist that I don’t appreciate the hard times. That I could’ve still been this kind person without it. Which is true. But honestly, thinking about it now, I wouldn’t truly be solid in who I thought I was without the hard times.

Don’t be scared of it. Take it minute by minute. Make your choices the best that you can, because the outcome will see you through, and the outcome will show you exactly who you are. And never under estimate each small step that you take. Each tiny win that you make. Because every tiny sprout of growth that you make, is absolutely beautiful. It is a moving growth in the right direction. Be inspired by it. If you took more mini sprouts of growth, imagine who you can be?

I used to not understand why I had to care about my own opinion.

I had to live with all these people on this Earth and mingle with them. Of course I need to care about what they think about me. I would always run away. That was my trademark almost. I ran from every situation and hoped that it disappeared. But it really doesn’t. And it’s really crazy to say this because this advice used to be so repetitive to me. This time I didn’t run. This time I faced it dead on. I learned what my boundaries are and I took power back in my own choices. I would say it out loud. “I choose who is in my life.” “I choose to stand back up” “I choose to always be kind”. It hits different when you say it out loud. I wrote it on my mirror.

I would fill my mind with content that would uplift me. Just filled my mind with it. Inspirational quotes, books, and TikToks. Just keep filling it. Battle your mind, and fill it with these good things, because one day they will truly stick. They truly will. And there is so much power to it. And it can take years. It took me years to get this point. But this way, with the ratio of what you fill your mind with? You start normalizing this encouraging mindset because it is 95% of what you put into your mind. You start to see yourself in a different light. You start to love yourself and love others.

You start to see how many people around you actually hate themselves. And it becomes clearer and clearer as to why they act the way they do. And you start empathizing and sharing that encouragement to the ones that hurt you to help them learn to love themselves.

It isn’t an easy journey.

but it’s definitely worth it.

New Year Goals I am Committing to 2022

I feel like if you are in your 20’s, you were part of that generation where you went to school, you went to college like you were told, and then now you are in the working world and now hate your job. Maybe not, maybe you always knew what you wanted. Maybe you were in the stage of denial where you thought that you just needed to get used to it, or that is just what it is.

Me? I can’t do it anymore. I can’t live the rest of my life just working a 9-5 that I feel like I’m slowly dying in. I am also in the percentage who takes it safe. So making risky choices would definitely be a scary thing and doubt would get in my way constantly. But as I am getting older, I am learning that I refuse to live my life like this anymore. I never want to work for someone. I want to be a content creator, I want to write for a living, I want to inspire for a living. And if someone is not going to give that job to me? I am going to make it.

So welcome to my journal, this blog is my goal. My goal is to make this blog my job so I can inspire woman to know their true worth, dive into their beauty interests with me, and follow my stories with me. I am choosing to commit to a goal that will change the entire trajectory of my life.

I’ve went through so much during the pandemic. It happened to not be directly related to how the pandemic affected the world, but it has changed my entire life. These past two years, I was truly challenged by who I am as a person, who I see myself as, where I stand as a human being when things get hard. I have always been challenged in life. But for some reason, this past year was it. This past year said “are you sure you claim to be who you are? Or are you just who you want to be?” And I am proud to say I came out to be myself and even more than I saw myself to be. I am going to spend my life just doing things that fill my soul, and this blog is everything that fills my soul. And this year is the year I will commit to it.

You are exactly what you need yourself to be. Not what your family needs you to be, not what your friends need you to be, nor your community. You have one life, and every year we make goals to achieve in our lifetime but many times we fail to fulfill them. You have so much potential in what YOU were meant to do. In the things that fill YOUR heart. Not someone else’s heart. This year, think about what fills your heart. What makes you happy, what is the last thing you remember that makes you excited about like, excited to explore more, excited to just be? And just strive for what makes you love life. You are the only person living your life. Why have other people control it just for their approval and opinion of you? It is just not worth your time. Precious days wasted when you could be dancing in the rain, singing in a community theater, becoming a content creator, inspiring people to strive for what makes them feel alive.

So for this new 2022 year, I challenge you to find what makes you feel alive, and dig your heels deep in the things that give you joy. And run with it. You only fail when you choose not to get back up again.

You may ask “How do I even know what makes me feel alive?”

I have been there, and felt purposeless in life. It was very difficult to get out. But a few things helped me find my way.

  1. Think about things in your youth that used to get you excited. When you had to responsibilities. Was it sports? Was it theater? Music? Find a community that enjoys the things that you do. You don’t have to make money in your interest to be happy in your life. Start with the small things.
  1. Give yourself new experiences to find out what you like. I had low self confidence. But I just started doing things. I started hanging out with people, I played video games I never played until I got good at it. I did singing lessons as an adult even though I had no where to sing and I was scared to do a lesson. I auditioned for a musical. No, I didn’t get to do the musical because of other engagements, but the experience of going to a place with random people in a community that I never experienced, gave me a little sight to everything I could be missing.
  1. Start a side hustle. Give yourself some kind of goal, mission. Why not? What, you waste time if it doesn’t succeed? Or you learn what it feels to pursue something you love even though you may never get a return. How to journey and learn a new level of persistence.
  1. Spartan races. I will say this is more direct rather than the other options that I have given you, but honestly, everyone can benefit from exercising, Spartan races are pretty fun, gives you a drive, and it can start inspiring you to think about other things you can achieve, if not athleticism.

I hope you are able to come through this journey with me. I may or may not inspire you to follow what fulfills your heart and fill your life with what brings you joy and inspiration.