2-2-2 Rule for Maintaining Relationships (SEEN ON TIKTOK//Is your relationship feeling stale?)

As I was scrolling through Tiktok, I came across one that says the “2-2-2 Rule in Marriage” made by @jannellesherman.

@jennellesherman 2-2-2 rule in marriage#luckysound #shein #cozy #workfromhome ♬ original sound – Carrie Bailey

The reason why relationships work so well in the beginning is because you don’t live together, and you don’t see each other, so you go out of your way to see eachother and spend time with each other.

You make intentional effort to see and spend time with each other. And when you are with them, you are focused on each other. So why is that not happening in most marriages?

Because you are getting too comfortable with the daily tasks or too comfortable living with each other. You feel like, because you live together and see each other, you are spending time with each other. But the difference is, you may be talking to each other more in a sense, but you are not spending quality time together.

Which is why the 2-2-2 rule works.

  1. Every 2 weeks, go out for the evening.

Yes, we are all busy, but you need to prioritize what is important to you. And sacrificing 2 dates a month is not that big of a sacrifice.

That means getting a babysitter. Going out for dinner or go to a cute museum or aquarium near by. This will only take a couple hours out of your whole month. Im talking to the workaholics here.

Go to your favorite restaurant, or take a walk in the park together. Whatever date night you want to do and can afford, go for it and intentionally plan it.

Something my friend did was she took her love language and her husbands love language (quality time and acts of service) and found an activity that fulfilled both of it, so they hung out at ikea, bought a drawer and assembled it together. She got to spend time with her husband, and her husband got to make her something. They were both fulfilled in the way they feel love.

Some weekend ideas:

  • dinner (1 hr)
  • museum (2 hrs)
  • escape room (1 hr)
  • painting pottery (1 hr)
  • walk in the park (1 hr)
  • going to am antique store (1 hr)
  • going to the gym together (1 hr)

2. Every 2 months, go out for the weekend.

This could mean getting a hotel room with a jacuzzi every two months, or go glamping for the weekend. It can mean several things! It doesn’t always have to break the bank either. But as long as you go out and spend time with each other away from the world, this would be a great idea!

  • glamping
  • camping
  • backpacking
  • getting an airbnb at the beach
  • a motel with a jacuzzi
  • cool airbnbs

3. Every 2 years, go out for a week.

Yes, as married couples, we don’t always have the time and money, so every two years, go out for a week and have that week vacation. Here are some ideas for your full week vacations.

  • A tropical island (Bali, Mexico, Hawaii, PR)
  • France
  • Disney
  • California Adventure Park
  • National Parks
  • Canada
  • Literally anywhere you’ve always wanted


Literally, doing things like this will not only spark your relationship but give you something to look forward to when you are stressed out in life.

It is important to maintain your relationship as much as it is important to invest in your job and your children.

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